The little time i have spent in campus has really taught me so much in matters relationships..i have gotten to see so much,heard so much and most of it has sent me into a frenzy!!..a relationship in a campus setting seems to be more of a requirement,and most of these,more often than not are mainly based on sex!it would look so weird if you have zero experience when it comes to “bedminton”🤭..nonetheless,these are experiences that make up our stories;as they say,variety is the spice of life!!
I would wish to table my thoughts on this..trying to be as sensitive as possible..the following few points might do something:
It is only a fool who does not change his mind
anonymous
Parental consent
Most parents,if asked,would say that their daughter or son is either in class or safely tucked in their crib,which for obvious reasons,they pay rent….a relationship that is only significant in the eyes of your peers is questionable by all means…its enough proof that you are getting yourself into an illicit affair..its foolish to play husband or wife to somebody you know quite well is never part of your future plans..ask yourself..what if he or she turns against you???what if things go south and the only people you could turn to are the very parents you disrespected by hosting another human who not only pollutes your mind,but also eats from your cookie jar???
Future uncertainities
Living with a mock husband or wife is undeniably not an easy task!!you never know what will happen the next minute…you never know what to do should your relationship find itself on the rocks..you might have a fight and the next thing,you dont have a place to put up!!.youngsters are known to be too experimental,so perhaps your partner may get themselves a more voluptous ‘chick,’ or a guy with a deeper voice..and you will do absolutely NOTHING!!..these thoughts will slowly start eating you up and before you know it,you start ranting and cursing and seeking sympathy!!but all is self inflicted!,sorry to say
Exposure to diseases
We all agree it is not a solid marriage and so your partner will still look for “greener pastures” elsewhere..you do not know who else your lover is seeing and whether they use protection or not…it can be very traumatising to discover you got an STI trying to remain faithful to the wrong person..committing to somebody who is as lost as you are..wake up and turn a new leaf!!
Aside from that,of late young men have resulted to using ‘blue pills’ or what they call viagra to please overwhelmingly sex thirsty little girls out there….its a worrying trend which if left untamed,will destroy a generation..girls on the other hand will use emergency pills after having multiple unprotected sex sessions…well.,i might seek the intervention of a medical doctor on that but meanwhile…OPEN YOUR EYES
Derailed academics
Getting your brains stuffed up by unnecessary issues….a brain that at your age should be focusing on academics and other growth aspects can take a toll on your academic life….drowning in love at a time you should be building yourself is just not a good idea!!most youngsters will invest more of their time on pleasing their sex mates and forget their main agenda in school..once you get a heartbreak you will most likely not focus so much on your schoolwork and it may take you so long before you get your act together again..you waste time and loose alot while at it..
The choice is yours
positivity folks😊
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