The little time i have spent in campus has really taught me so much in matters relationships..i have gotten to see so much,heard so much and most of it has sent me into a frenzy!!..a relationship in a campus setting seems to be more of a requirement,and most of these,more often than not are mainly based on sex!it would look so weird if you have zero experience when it comes to “bedminton”🤭..nonetheless,these are experiences that make up our stories;as they say,variety is the spice of life!!

I would wish to table my thoughts on this..trying to be as sensitive as possible..the following few points might do something:

It is only a fool who does not change his mind

anonymous

Parental consent

Most parents,if asked,would say that their daughter or son is either in class or safely tucked in their crib,which for obvious reasons,they pay rent….a relationship that is only significant in the eyes of your peers is questionable by all means…its enough proof that you are getting yourself into an illicit affair..its foolish to play husband or wife to somebody you know quite well is never part of your future plans..ask yourself..what if he or she turns against you???what if things go south and the only people you could turn to are the very parents you disrespected by hosting another human who not only pollutes your mind,but also eats from your cookie jar???

Future uncertainities

Living with a mock husband or wife is undeniably not an easy task!!you never know what will happen the next minute…you never know what to do should your relationship find itself on the rocks..you might have a fight and the next thing,you dont have a place to put up!!.youngsters are known to be too experimental,so perhaps your partner may get themselves a more voluptous ‘chick,’ or a guy with a deeper voice..and you will do absolutely NOTHING!!..these thoughts will slowly start eating you up and before you know it,you start ranting and cursing and seeking sympathy!!but all is self inflicted!,sorry to say

Exposure to diseases

We all agree it is not a solid marriage and so your partner will still look for “greener pastures” elsewhere..you do not know who else your lover is seeing and whether they use protection or not…it can be very traumatising to discover you got an STI trying to remain faithful to the wrong person..committing to somebody who is as lost as you are..wake up and turn a new leaf!!

Aside from that,of late young men have resulted to using ‘blue pills’ or what they call viagra to please overwhelmingly sex thirsty little girls out there….its a worrying trend which if left untamed,will destroy a generation..girls on the other hand will use emergency pills after having multiple unprotected sex sessions…well.,i might seek the intervention of a medical doctor on that but meanwhile…OPEN YOUR EYES

Derailed academics

Getting your brains stuffed up by unnecessary issues….a brain that at your age should be focusing on academics and other growth aspects can take a toll on your academic life….drowning in love at a time you should be building yourself is just not a good idea!!most youngsters will invest more of their time on pleasing their sex mates and forget their main agenda in school..once you get a heartbreak you will most likely not focus so much on your schoolwork and it may take you so long before you get your act together again..you waste time and loose alot while at it..

The choice is yours

positivity folks😊

The last almost five months and counting have not been a walk in the park.I know,..for us all..no one had ever imagined that at some point you would wake up and boom!!.no school..no gatherings,too much caution,overcleaning,social distancing,name it..but most importantly..prolonged interactions with our loved ones!!

Talking about interactions..it has not been easy waking up each morning to the faces of people who for a long time have lit up our lives but now are a thorn in the flesh…talk about parents,wives,husbands,children…now everyone has their flaws outwheighing their good side😅😅!!and its not funny….at this point you will breath and your significant other will be quick to say its too loud or maybe your nose has a bad breath..weird!!everyone is picking quarrels..you have now realised that its your sister who consumes the most sugar…its your daughter who inflates water bills….and you are ever hurling insults at the slightest opportunity!!

personally for me i have learnt that i could do things way different from how i would before..i have realised that whilst am all grumpy and moody about my financial status,somebody somewhere is cruising with their family at a beach and eating life with a big spoon!!we have always had a notion as a society(moreso kenyans)that during tough times such as these,no soul should look or seem happy🤭…that we should strike a balance!!A typical kenyan would say “aki ni kubaya akuna pesa” ,but in my mind i would say “ni wewe huna”!! I mean..some people are still leading their normal lives…

I have learnt that what most young people are calling “depression” is simply dissapointments that come about with being broke…money is some sought of ‘mwarubaine’ plant that cures 40+ ailments😂..millenials are just broke and thats it..perhaps its the pressure that comes with wanting to make it in life…and of course making it means having loads of cash…just maybe…a life revolving around drugs,sex and very little education…maybe a 2 on a scale of 100 and money money money!!

Let me not speak so much because i might get emotional 😂😂..i know i might look like am venting but please take it with a softened heart.

Have it splendid folks😛

This year started with a very high note for some of us,if not all.Standards were set,goals laid out and all manner of things we thought could take us to the next level.Sometimes the distance between you and your well cooked goal is nothing but that bunch of wayward friends.check them out peeps.

1.The stereotypes

These ones will never let you move out of your own way.They want you to conform to some laid down rules and patterns probably you dont know of.They want you squeeze yourself in a box and do what “society” thinks is right.With such kind of people,trust me,you will not go beyond your strengths.Get yourself open minded pals who will help you out of a mindset cocoon

2.The pessimists

My version of these ones is nothing but dream killers..You will tell them of that “kaproject” you are thinking about and boooom!your eggs are killed even before they are laid!they will never see anything good in you and however hard you try to impress them,you end up being the fool.Do not expect to achieve anything with such creatures around you.Infact,do not negotiate about it.Leave that friendship faster than you fixed yourself in.

3.The pacesetters

I will tell you for sure that 90% of human beings have such kind of friends.These ones will only allow you to do something once they themselves have done and succeeded..They are the ones who carry around “successometers” to measure the condition of your ability to succeed..Obviously they will not allow you to do what they haven’t..From these,do not expect those super-powerful motivational quotes from great men..They want you to be nothing more than a common onyango,kamau or wanjiru..My friends even the Holy scriptures are clear,”Resist the devil and he will flee from you….”FLEEEEEE

4.The “common mwananchi”

Haven’t you heard that eagles do not hang out with chicken??well,you are an eagle in your own way.People whose thinking capacity is way below your own have a tendency to bring you down if not destroy you.Some scientific study has revealed that secretely thinking you are better than others increases your mental health.Definitely a good mental health is a pathway to getting better each day!It is not pride,but self respect!!!!

5.The “spoilt brats”

They say bad company ruins good morals..Am not trying to be religious but of course if  that “religion” is what you need to become better,go for it.You will not hang out with thieves and end up a priest.Some friend of mine tells me that its okay to hang out with freaks and that its about personal choices..Hell noo!in one way or another you will end up dead if not behind bars.Its okay to say no to what you believe is wrong .Its okay to loose these kind of friends and keep your life.Didn’t you make it in your mother’s womb for nine good months ALONE and did just fine????😏

Make yourself and a significant other productive

A friend says sleeping on sunday causes monday!!sleep harder🤐🤐😌

The other day i was walking to school in a hot …veeeery hot afternoon.the air smelt of cheap fragrance and dust blew left right and centre,,,so people walked with their eyes half closed,like people of some nationality i wount mention.😂.so i get to walk right past these college divas or rather girls walking across a pathway in a row..nine girls i think??am trying to device a way of cutting across their thick skins without being labbeled rude*(0bviously am very time conscious and wouldn’t want to run late for that entrepreneurship class).immediately my attention is drawn to one girl who happens to have a “kamisi” sticking out of a green, fluffy ,Just below the knee skirt.am awed.do these things still exist??furthermore whoever advised the poor lass to rock that piece of clothing must be having a special place in hell.That was not enough.Her immediate friend had decided to walk to class with a chihuahua at hand.My friends from upcountry talk about shiwawa..so this little creature looked like it had been dug straight from the ground.Dirty,smelly and too noisy that it kept on barking at whoever cared to listen.It was probably shaming its owner for ruining its beautiful image.I will neither spare its owner..This “chick” has not changed her braids for God Knows how long.Those things looked like some of those our freedom fighters had during their tough times.Times when beauticians were rare gems..Am still wondering how some ladies manage to walk around with tones of fake hair on their heads!!!

As If i have not seen enough,there comes another “slayqueen” who talks with so much attitude that you wonder who taught her english..She cannot even pronounce her own name..she says she is shishley(sishley).At this time now am walking so fast,obviously in a fit of laughter.I realise am late already and i have to go.But wait..dear ladies,please try acting like the women you would want to be in future.😂😂🤔

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton